Monday, August 27, 2007

What NOT to Read When You're Pregnant

So, here I am. Thirty five and pregnant with little nipper number three, when all of a sudden I happen upon this headline Experts: U.S. childbirth deaths on rise If you read the article, it basically says that a woman's chances for dying in childbirth have raised slightly in the last decade or so. The story about a healthy woman who already had two kids with no complications and then had excessive bleeding with the third and died really has kind of freaked me out. Justin tells me not to worry, because the numbers really are very slight. I've had preterm labor with both previous pregnancies, so I think chances are pretty good that it will happen again (unless I'm very careful.) The last time was with Duncan at 32 weeks. The labor had progressed enough that they put me on Magnesium Sulfate, a drug used to relax the muscles (also used for pre-eclampsia.) I had a bad reaction to it and had a little emergency. Blacked out, once awake I could not move, could not talk. Justin told me later he thought he might lose me. So now, of course, I'm thinking about my history and this new information, and trying not to stress too much. We were relieved after I had my first "old lady ultrasound" last week, and the baby looks great. So, doggonit why did I have to go and read that article? Maybe what I should take away from this is the thousands of women who don't die in childbirth, next to the ten that do. Sigh.

8 comments:

Betharoopie said...

Kind of like the statistics on defects/deaths/misc scary things that the horrible media reports: "ABC will DOUBLE your chance of having XYZ happen" - when, of course, the chances went from 0.000001% to 0.000002%. Gotta love those.

Don't you worry. I have this little quote taped above my PC: "If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever."

I know, easier said than done.

Amy said...

While I spend a huge amount of time worrying, Beth is right, there is no benefit to it. All you can do is focus on the things you can control, and do your best.

...They won't give you magnesium sulfate again if you're in pre-term labor, will they? Are there other options?

Pam said...

When I asked if I could go home the last time I had preterm labor, the doctor said no, maybe the next day. He said he was afraid it might start all over again, and I'd have to go back on the magnesium sulfate! I thought after the reaction I had, that that would be the last option.

It's funny, too, because when I told the nurse about the experience the other day at the Maternal/Fetal Specialists, she was surprised about the Mag. She asked if I had pre-eclampsia, and I said no. It was because I was already 3cm dilated (according to the nurse, the doc thought the nurse was being generous.) Any further, and they probably would have had to deliver the baby. They used extreme measures, I guess to keep him in there. I must say, that my doctor wondered later if all of that was necessary, because Duncan was a full term baby. What can you do? You trust your doctors, right?

Mom said...

I read the article and hoped you wouldn't see it. Alas! Anyway, it was a very tiny number out of 100,000. And it's still much lower than when you were born. So like Beth said, don't worry. P.S. You never told me about blacking out. You shouldn't keep things from your mom.Besides, you have innumerable prayer warriors on your side.

Nat said...

Did you not read the 3rd line of the article? Here it was it said in regards to the increase:"experts believe increasing maternal obesity and a jump in Caesarean sections are partly to blame. "

You are so far from obeses I should think that alone would lower your risk and with neither boy did you need a csect. Pammycakes, there is always something to worry about and worrying isn't going to do anything but you stress you out which, by the way, can cause preterm labor. So just relax. Bebe is going to be fine. hugs and kisses.

Pam said...

Honestly, I'm not *that* worried. I mean the statistics are in my favor by a long shot. It's just one more thing to put in a brain that's already hopped up on hormones!

Tara said...

Congrats on the pregnancy Pam!!! I'm not sure when you "announced it" but I heard from a little bird and I am so happy for you guys! Love, Tara

Anonymous said...

ahh-those pregnancy hormones! As if our regular ones don't make us crazy enough already. I think this little bebe is gonna be just fine! The universe owes you. Love, lala